Untrodden Path.....

I am reminded of the day when I was told I could not be given a permanent job in a school coz I was past 40. It angered me. I, a rebel, wanted to fight this battle. But before doing that, I stepped back and thought, Do I want to be a part of that education system where a child's thoughts and dreams are chopped mercilessly even before their tiny wings can begin to flutter? Where the voice of the innocent is silenced even before they can utter a word? Do I want to be a part of that system? If yes, I must fight. But if I want to re-live those golden moments where a child was alive coz he was speaking his or her heart, they were alive coz they were heard and they had the freedom to dream, explore and invent...if that's the life I am seeking then why waste my time and energy fighting the system which can never change even if you give your life to it. So I walked out of that life to explore and find a new path.

Same thing applies to any other profession.... One needs to think if it is worth fighting for certain aspects? Who is it going to benefit? Is it what you are seeking...the highest level? If yes, then go for it and think of ways to change the system but try something new, go on an untrodden path. But if the struggle is not worth it, then look for your purpose in life. Dont give your time and energy for the people who do not value your struggle and who are used to slavery. I hope it makes sense. 

Friendship and faith

Sharing some lines from the 'Sacred Space'.....Believe it or not.... "Granted that faith cannot be proved, what harm will come to you if you gamble on its truth, and it proves false? If you gain, you gain all, if you lose, you lose nothing".....

In my opinion the same holds true for friendship, love and maybe integrity !!!!!

 Watched the latest movie 'PK' the other day, which had many messages.... One of the messages that I loved the most was said right at the end of the movie.... Love somebody so much that you let them go. The actor never looked back and he had his reasons...... I truly understand his reasons and think he was right in not looking back.....for no one loved him back!!!!!!!!

Are we worse than animals???

Torture:::
What would people know about torture and pain!!! It has been 15 yrs, This story shook me and numbed me to the core, froze my heart!!! The same year when I almost lost my brother!!!
How could a person be killed so mercilessly. Are people inhuman? Is there a word to describe the people carrying out such a hideous, appalling deed? This little boy was just 22 year old . He had not even opened his eyes into the professional world, not even recd his first pay packet, but the torture he suffered was something which no one ever suffered!!!!!!!! I read about this boy only once and after that I also read about his body being handed over to his mother and father...a badly mutilated body. The torture reports are given in the link attached. I am not sure if that boy ever recd any award for his heroism coz then so many years ago, this boy was blamed. I cannot write more than this........For no words can describe my feelings nor can they talk of the struggles of the parents of this boy. The saddest part was the parents received only a mutilated body of their child and they don't even know the exact date, when their child died !!!!!! 

Me::::

Me::::
I have strongly believed in and always strived to live by certain values, be it SENSITIVITY towards all, LOYALTY towards my family and friends, HARD WORK, or TOLERANCE. 

I have always shown INTEGRITY towards my family and friends, stood by them when they needed me. People who know me, have respected me for my values. I have never stooped low nor have begged to seek respect!!!!! My actions have helped me earn respect from many. .....maybe not all... That’s never been my goal in life –‘to earn respect’!!!! 

 I have never tried to be indifferent to people even though the others have ignored me repeatedly. I don’t hold grudges against them.... People often take my kindness for granted and many a times I let them do so, for they are my own. I am stating facts and not bragging about self. But you see in today's world, sometimes one needs to pat their own backs!!

I am not arrogant, merely proud of who I am. And there is a HUGE difference between ‘Arrogance’ and ‘Being Proud’ of one’s self.......Of course, if one wants to see it.....

 I do have my flaws and faults... I don’t claim to be PERFECT!!!!! And don’t aspire to be one either...

A riot of angry thoughts!!!!

Hypocrisy::::

The article is merely my thoughts that I have wanted to express. They have troubled me and angered me for long and I just wanted to vent them out. It is not a personal attack on anyone. And if someone thinks so, then I have hit a chord inside them and YOU need to introspect… “Am I doing this too?”

We are all hypocrites!!!! Why????

A soldier dies at the border and we all get onto our Facebook, twitter or whatsapp, check out a page, a message describing this martyr or a photo of the coffin carrying his body….. The more ‘the most heart touching’ aspect of the martyr, the better it is!!!!!! We post it on our FB page or send it to our friends, trying to convey/show our solidarity towards the martyr and towards our armed forces. I think this is what our TV channels do to increase their TRP. Let me explain that!!!! How long is our so called feeling/emotion with this soldier? For how long does this feeling stay (obviously with us)??? ………. Welllllll For not more than a few minutes…till the time the pic is getting posted!!!!!Maximum till then!!! After that the hero, the brave soldier is forgotten. But of course the thought /emotion comes back again when a person ‘likes’ the pic/post or writes a comment “RIP, brave heart….” Or simply “RIP”….Saalon, You couldn't find those few seconds also to write “Rest in Peace”??? Or is it that you do not know the full form of RIP!!!... But but but… after writing the comment or posting the post , both the persons( the comment writer and the person posting the post) feel a sense of relief… Mission Accomplished!!!! Their job is over!!!! They have paid their tribute to the martyr.. They have shown their ‘Integrity/spirit towards a soldier’…. My my my my

Another interesting thing, which I find very hilarious, is…On such pictures people hit the like button….Translating the ‘like’ action into words…… “I ‘like’ that you (the martyr) are in a coffin!!!”……… “I ‘like’ that he WAS a brave soldier!!!!” ……..“I ‘like’ that he is a martyr now!!!!” I feel like laughing at these people (cant write that I would like to shake them and put some sense into them)… How can you ‘like’ such a thing??? But then you can ….for this brave man, this brave boy was not YOUR son, or YOUR father Nor was he YOUR brother!!!!! But at least you are liking it and showing your emotions… You need to be thanked…..

Coming back to the sharing bit…. All those who share the pics….they also get a sense of relief….not because they have done their bit but coz they will now be noticed by their friends. “ Oh !!! How concerned this person is towards a brother soldier!!!!” “What feelings this person has!!!” ( Bascically fishing for compliments and trying to gain popularity and also showing off in front of your friends that you are better than the others in your friend’s list, coz YOU have shared a pic!!!)

There might be one odd genuine person… I dunno… But is this the only way to show your care and feelings??? If you really ‘care’ then stop this begging to the world by posting “ We the PEOPLE FROM THE ARMED FORCES and our FAMILIES give such a supreme sacrifice to keep you all (civilians) safe….. DON’T forget our sacrifice” ……………… Are you begging to the world to give you respect and to honour the brave man? (Sirf ek katorey ki kaami hai)……….Are you being just to the soldier? HE did not do so to gain popularity!!! His last thoughts were not that the nation must remember his heroic deeds … His last thoughts would have been for his family, his wife …Did I remember to say to her, I love you? Will she remember that I love her? Will she be able to live alone without me? Will this world help her when she is alone? …the thoughts will be for his children… I am sorry kiddos, I couldn't see you graduate, I couldn't see you walk, I wouldn't be there when you fall in love or get married… But will you remember all the good things that I did for you or will you remember me as a father who had scolded you??? I love you bachhas…He would think of his parents… Sorry dad and mom, I won’t be there when you break down on seeing my body wrapped in a tricolor, I won’t be there when you will need me as you grow old, I have not been a good son, but will you remember that I loved you immensely, that you mean a world too me, and thank you for being the best parents in the world!!! … I am sure that boy did not think of himself as a martyr or did not think of gaining popularity… he must have said a small prayer to WE THE PEOPLE …’ please be there for my parents, my wife and my children’ Help them please, they might need you many a times, don’t turn your back on them, ……for you see…… I won’t be there for them from now on, will you all…….????’ ( He wont complete the sentence, either coz he is not sure of his fellow mates or coz he does not want to beg) But what are we doing? Are we not begging for him and all for the wrong things? Are we being just in so doing? So stop this begging!!! Stop it!!! STOP IT!!! Please Stop it… please stop begging to the world to appreciate the sacrifice of this young boy, who is someone’s son, someone’s father and someone’s beloved husband!! Please stop it…. Find something else to gain your own popularity among your friends…

I ask these people……. How many of you called up families of this martyr and paid your condolences? How many of you have gone and checked if the grief stricken old parents, the numbed wife and the scared children have got the required funds, payment which is rightfully theirs? How many of you have called them after a few months,  a year or two and checked on them if they are ok and if they need anything? Or just heard them out? Is there anyone who has done this!!! Then aren't we just showing off about our concern, our tribute??? Aren't be being very shallow????

If you want to show concern then should it be only limited to the officers? Should it not be extended to our jawans? Did they not lay down their lives? Or was their sacrifice less than that of officers’? If you want to show concern, then see to it that justice is provided to martyrs like Lt Saurabh Kalia and his parents who have gone from pillar to post seeking justice for their first born!!!! 

You want to show solidarity and concern?????...... then provide an umbrella to the woman who had gone to receive the award and was standing in the rain. The others sitting in the front were civilians like me, but what happened to our armed forces? …… That lady who was getting drenched on that cold rainy day was the wife of YOUR Martyr? Couldn't you give that lady, who was already so numb, couldn't you all provide a simple cover!!!! No you can’t for you were busy, writing and posting about this event to gain your popularity!!! Can you all do this?????? Hahahahahahahaha………….Bloody Hypocrites!!!!

Ushering Life from Outside to Inside

    Every day is a different day- with different emotions: be it happiness, woes, sorrows or joys. Just like no two individuals are alike, how can we expect any two days in anyone’s lives to be identical???

    There comes a time in everyone’s lives, when for days together one is feeling either elated or goes deep down into the arms of sorrow, feels low and depressed. What do you do then? Who will pull you out from your misery?   When you are happy and joyous, the world looks bright and beautiful!!! But when you are sad, this same world looks dark and gloomy. Everything seems to be going downhill and after a few days the gloom and depression takes over your mind, heart and soul and you look tired and hassled by your sorrows and woes. Nothing seems right in your world!!! And you ask yet again, What can I do and how do I pull myself out of this misery??    Welllll, I just might have a solution...It often works.......It is called bringing back life into your house.......... into your room............ and into your life!!!! It is all around you....inside of you, but the layers of sadness in you is not letting you reach it, see it or even feel it......     Take this journey with me. They are just a few small steps. You never know it might be just what you need!!!!..........It might sound childish, but no harm in trying......Are you ready to take that journey with me??? At least give it a try...... Let’s go.....For the early risers:If you get up before sunrise, then.....1.     Wash your face, wear your sports gear, pick up your mp3 or mobile which has this song by Jason Mraz, “93 Million Miles from the Sun”, and step out of your house.2.     Walk towards an area or park, from where you can view the sun rise. Remember to walk slowly..NO running or walking at a fast pace!!!
3.     While you are walking, feel the breeze touching you, tingling every part of your body. Feel the fresh oxygen (positivity) going into your lungs, pushing out the filth (negativity) from inside of you.
4.     Become aware of the warmth in the wind, caressing you, embracing you and holding your hand...taking you into a new world which is about to come alive!! Throw your head and hands back, in complete surrender and let the breeze take you forward!! Feel like that little child who is lying on the lap of his/her mother. ...carefree, with no troubles on earth. (At least TRY to feel like a child)
5.     Reach the park, before the sun is about to rise. Switch on the mobile/mp3 and push the button to play the song... Keep watching the sun rising into the sky...as the first ray of the sun hits the sky, listen to the birds chirping excitedly all around...share their joy, the joy of a new day, a new beginning!! They are welcoming life...The SUN....
6.     Look at the trees around you. They are gleaming. See the smile on the face of each leaf..it is there in its shine!!!!....Is it not how our face brightens up when we are happy???
7.     Now feel the warmth of the sun slowly falling on you , gradually moving down from your head to toe, pushing out he coldness from inside of you...warming you up!!!  Throw your head back once again..if you want to close your eyes do it. Welcome the sun...let it caress you, love you!!!8.      Do you feel that a tear, or maybe more, might be wanting to escape from your eyes?? Let them fall, and roll down...that’s just sorrow being pushed out from your heart ........the negativity flowing out......the “dead” feeling coming out in the form of tears. Cry if you want to, do not stop yourself.
9.     Forget the world around you, forget that they are watching you!!! THEY were not there, when you were crying alone in your room/bathroom and falling into despair, were they??? They did not hold your hand or console you then!!! So today you take away the right from them, the right to talk about you or look at you, by merely ignoring them!!! It is possible that they are watching the transformation on your face.....a bright light that has taken the place of gloom...they are envying the power in you, which is bringing about the change.10.  Stay there for as long as you want to .....do not worry about your work, your job, your spouse, your children or studies....they can wait...you need time for yourself...you have a right to this time, solely for your own self!!!11.  Once you feel a little better, get up and walk back towards your home, slowly.
12.  Look at the greens growing all around on the way back. Pluck as many variety of greens as you can (only greens). Take them home.
13. Now put the greens, that you have brought home with you, into vases, glasses or bowls. Arrange them beautifully/aesthetically in the vases and place them in your room, bathrooms and one next to your bed.. Do not forget to fill water in the bowls/vases!!
14. You just brought a lot of life into your house, and some bit into you!!!!
15. Click a picture of the life around you which is now in the vases and upload them for the world to see..They will wonder what you are up to!!!
16. Do this for a week and see/feel the difference in you!!!
All the best to all you lovely people!!!! May you find the light inside you, burning brightly!!!!For late risers: Just feel the warmth of the sun and listen to the chirping of the birds and the rustling of the leaves on the trees and follow the same procedure.
On a cloudy day: The sun feels you are not strong enough to take in its direct warmth, so it filters out just a part of it, which is just adequate for you. Follow the same procedure.
On a rainy day: The rain drops are merely tears of the sun, which is so happy to see you. Every drop that falls on you is a kiss of the sun, telling you that it loves you. Follow the same procedure.